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ArticlesSince Barb travels a great deal, has a busy seminar schedule, coaching and consulting practice, and a two week waiting list, we have decided to give a heads up regarding her schedule. She is available in Chicago for private sessions when she is not travelling and doing seminars. She does private sessions in person and via phone no matter where she is. It is more expeditious to email barb@excelquest.com or call to make an appointment or register for a seminar. You may reach her at 708–799–5329. It is with great sadness that I inform you that my life partner, Dr. David Dobson, creator of OTCC™ and NFP™ died on February 22, 2008. Dave was a great hypnotic genius. He will be greatly missed by his family and friends as well as the many, many people he has helped all over the world. His last wishes were that his valuable work be remembered and used for the great value it delivers and carried on by myself, Barbara and my grandson, Mick. He is well-known for his Fun Shops, which we will continue sometime in the near future. We are continuing to archive his work and will make it more available for you who wish to learn and utilize it. You may contact us at mind@excelquest.com, or call 708-799-5329. His email or website will not be active or changed immediately, but sometime in the near future. —Barb
Regular price: $190.00 Sale price: $140.00 No, it is not a town in southern Italy because it is not a destination. It is a much discussed and used word. It has been abused in many a humorous way. The NLP definition is, “matching aspects of another person’s external behavior”. Being the same creates rapport. The ongoing process of matching is referred to a pacing. Rapport is a choice. Over the many years I have been in NLP, I have experienced various people who have read a book on NLP, attempting to match every element of my behavior, tone and language. It is humorous to change my behavior and watch them scramble to match. Why do we notice this consciously? Why doesn’t that work? Matching behavior is powerful because it is unconscious. The unconscious mind of the other person recognizes a friendly. It should be done elegantly, gracefully and respectfully. If it is not, it can be interpreted as mimicking and some may find it insulting or at best humorous. Matching is not about being agreeable or nice, although is it nice to be nice. Matching is simply the art of being the Same. Some of the ways we can match are to adjust our bodies to be similar to the other person’s posture and pacing consistent us of body movements like eye blinks, smiles; tonality, volume; gestures; listening to an utilizing repeated phrases; cross-over matching, adjusting the tempo of voice to the person’s rate of breathing, and a very valuable one, matching their breathing. Instead of trying to do them all at the same time, I suggest that you pick one or two and pace them comfortably. This is what Dave Dobson does with the famous Other-than-conscious-hello. He picks a piece of behavior and acknowledges it respectfully. Since rapport is an ongoing phenomena, if one comes from a place of caring and wanting to get to know someone it works. You can do it from 30 feet away. It is a powerful tool when done with respect and courtesy. We teach the OTC hello and many other unconscious/other-than-conscious-skills in our Practitioner training. You get the opportunity to practice with your fellow participants in the class. What is it anyway? Who nose? Hypnosis is everything and everything is Hypnosis. Our best definition is that it is communication. Hypnosis in neither mystical or scary. It can be either malevolent or benevolent. It is simply suggestion. We spend a great deal of time hypnotizing ourselves: “I’m afraid,” I can’t do that”, “I can forget about the unreasonable fear”, “I can do this”. “I’m smart”, “I’m intelligent,” ”I look really good”. Or hypnotizing others: “You look tired”, “Have you been sick?, Are you feeling alright?”, “You look great!”, “Have you lost weight?” “You look hot!” Milton Erickson, father of American Medical Hypnosis was once asked, “Are you aware of the way in which you use your words?” He replied: “I certainly am, and I want to emphasize the importance of that awareness in all of you. In any work, you are going to use words to influence the psychological life of an individual today; you are going to use words to influence his organic life today; you are going to also influence his psychological and organic life twenty years from now. So you had better know what you are saying. You had better be willing to reflect upon the words you use, to wonder what their meanings are, and to seek out and understand their many associations.” So, since we are all hypnotists, let’s use our words and language skills for the best possible outcomes for ourselves and others, especially our children. A Self-Exploration of the Feminine Balance. We all have hopes and dreams. What’s stopping you from attaining them? A seemingly simple question. Notice your response. Notice your answers. What can this Wordsmythe teach you about the life you lead? The answer is, pay attention to the language that you use. The little words such as ‘just’, and ‘but’. Notice the words that come just after. They frame your motivations and help to provide comfort within your rationalizations. Comfort within your discomfort™. Sure you could apply the meta-model challenge, yet if the words came out when others are around, you have set up a life frame where people will act and react to you. This is part of our human condition. This is far more pronounced and in many ways more hurtful for women of today. Ladies, do you remember times when you felt a bit down? You may have purchased something new. Perhaps a blouse or shoes or dress? You wore it and felt great for a short time. This is an example of feelings resonating from the outside in. These are the most fleeting. Cable television shows focus on extreme change such as surgery in order to adjust the outside in hopes of changing the inside. I think this works far more profoundly from the inside out. When you consistently radiate self-love and confidence from your very core, profound satisfaction will soon be found in many other areas of your lives. How then do you alleviate your feelings when you feel less than you deserve? Too many women experience aspects of distraction in order to let go of those nagging feelings that stay with you just outside of your conscious awareness. You could change them if you were more aware of how they will limit and stop you from being the woman you were born to be. These are some of the reasons that my wife and I developed something new, “The Core of Self-Acceptance for Women©”. We believe, and I think you will also, that accessories, worn on the outside, bring far greater reflection to a light when it shines brightly from within. Our mothers and our grandmothers looked to their mothers for inspiration. They may have had little according to today’s standards, yet they stood regally in their cause of nurturing and building solid relationships. Quietly negotiating as she insured the safety and contentment of first her family and then her community. A seemingly simple woman, dedicated to giving, creating and striving. All the while standing proud in her humble nobility. Who do we look towards today? Where else can you go and learn these important ways of behavior and to model the feminine? Did you know that what you are saying to yourself is often worse than what you are saying on the outside? We’ll teach you both consciously and unconsciously too easily and elegantly tap into the force of nature that you already are. Imagine no longer having to question or doubt, but to grow into the healthy happy role models society currently craves. Until next time, enjoy the flows of life. Jeff Schoener I and 9 other NLP™ Master Trainers including Richard Bandler have been interviewed by Tom and Vik. (Tom is an NLP™ Trainer and Vik an NLP™ Master Practitioner). Below is an example of some of the questions they asked us.
And many more questions. By now, most of you are familiar with the age regression that Richard Bandler did with me so many years ago. Despite advancing chronology, I still remain energetic and reasonably healthy to this day. I do ok for a lady pushing 70, I think. For many years I have been asked about my personal experience and have decided to publish it in a booklet and on CD. Publication date is not yet certain, but hopefully, it will be available sometime in June. Richard will be speaking on the CD as well. We will be discussing Health and Wellness using Hypnosis, NLP™ and DHE™. The actual age regression will be available. The Soften tape is often referred to by the trainers, “Barb’s tape.” Of course, it is now available on CD, as are the Soften Too, and Soften More CDs by Richard…all age regressions based on the original. I transcribed my age regression and listened to it every night before sleep. Along with additional strategies, I believe strongly that this guided me to health and an even more energetic life. I continue to use self hypnosis and the age regression of so long ago. Richard did install a youthener and I keep this good hypnosis going. I will also include examples of others Richard and I have worked with and the amazing results they have created for themselves.
NLP business applications often suck. Well, maybe they're not that bad, but all you hear about is rapport skills, predicate matching, and sometimes meta-programs. At best, they're applied to getting people to play nice together, helping customers who call for help feel better, and convincing people to feel good buying stuff they don't really need or want. NLP is a universal tool that can be used much more widely. It's a tool for understanding, and a tool for making changes. Using an NLP mindset can lead to powerful business results, just as it leads to powerful personal results.
NLP Thinking Helps Fix Business Problems. NLP provides Practitioners techniques like Change History and Anchoring. As your skill increases, you start thinking in processes. You ask, "How does this person get their current results?" You elicit strategies and states, identify triggers, and choose interventions that change a person's process. Process thinking is like gold in business; few people do it well. Applying NLP thinking to business helps find the root cause of business problems. While a person is conveniently self-contained, a business is made of many people, so you'll be doing your strategy elicitation by working with people and the relationships between them. Imagine Miss Anne's Department Store is losing business. Elicit MADS's strategy for making money by asking, "What's MADS's strategy for getting a customer to buy?" Then trace the process step-by-step to find out where it fails. Your strategy elicitation will lead you through the entire organization: First, MADS must get customers. This leads you to marketing. You ask customers how they heard of MADS. Everyone says, "on MADS's 5 p.m. radio ad," even though MADS advertises in 5 different places. Next, customers visit the store, try on clothes, and buy or don't buy. You notice people who try on the clothes return most of what they try on when they return from the fluorescent-lit dressing room. Then, customers approach the cash register to pay. They walk up to an empty register, look around in puzzlement, and hunt through 3 departments to find the on-duty cashier. After a 10-minute wait, they reach the register. Finally, customers pay. You notice that several want to pay by credit card, and are dismayed by MADS "cash-only" policy. Without sufficient cash, some customers return clothes to the racks. We've just seen the business-equivalent of a strategy. Just as NLP strategies lead you to the intervention ("you're yelling at yourself? Let's turn the volume down!"), business strategies also suggest their own interventions. In this case, help the marketing department do a better job of attracting customers, replace the dressing room light bulbs with full-spectrum lighting, make sure cash registers are fully staffed, and accept credit cards. NLP Helps Understand the Link Between Individuals and the Business Once you've found the critical organizational process moments at the business level, you can search for the people at the heart of organizational issues. When people make decisions that set policy, those decisions get magnified into organizational behavior. For example, I worked with a COO candidate who made decisions too slowly for his CEO's comfort. He liked making fully-informed decisions. Really fully-informed. Jam-packed-fully-informed. He could spend months gathering and analyzing data. Thus, the organization itself would slow until he made up his mind. This executive's personal decision-making strategy determined the entire organization's speed! At this point, we could shift to "typical" NLP with the individual. Here, NLP came into play unpacking and revising his decision-making process. His decisions sped up, his organization's decisions sped up, and he was eventually promoted to COO. You'll find this is not uncommon. Individual NLP skills can, indeed, help people in an organization get better at what they do. But when you combine individual NLP skills with NLP process thinking at an organizational level, you can find the organizational leverage points where a single change in the business or in a person can create lasting, significant business value. SteverRobbins.com The Stever Robbins Company Helping People Exceed Their Own Expectations +1 (617) 354-1446 Many of us who use language in our daily lives rely upon what we already know. Even if we completed NLP™ Practitioner or Master Practitioner classes, we grow comfortably into our own language patterns. As communicators and ones who influence, it is often helpful to go back to basics. We will read and reread books. We find ourselves buying audio courses, in order to realize greater value in our words. Sure, many of you reading learn more about attaining greater awareness in language such as ambiguities and representational systems. Once many of us learn these basics, some of us seem to gain a level of arrogance, and when we are about to learn again, our brains begin to shut down. You may tell yourself, “I already know this.”, or more specifically, on the inside, “This again?” In these ways we close ourselves off from fresh perspectives on something “OLD”. Too many of us think that we already know enough to match certain predicates and to get your points across. How many of you reading, I wonder, have a greater appreciation of the value you gain for yourselves? I challenge you to begin to find more creative ways in adding to the descriptors of your own experiences. As a by product of accepting this challenge, you will be enhancing your own ability to persuade and lead. You will learn to fire up your brain and access all of the areas accessed by your senses. Too many of us go through any experience by seeing it or feeling it. What if we could, not only, notice distinctions in what we hear, along with the distinctions within the qualities of what we hear? More than simple representations; let us take greater control of our sub-modalities. This will add color and dimension to all that you say. This will not only make your neurology sing, this will also expand your own flexibility in areas of matching and holding report with anyone. Until next time, enjoy the flows of life. Jeff Schoener Sign up for The Wordsmythe Quarterly www.nlpwordsmythe.com  |
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This includes the original age regression on CD Dr. Bandler did with
Barb Stepp that assisted her in the cancer remission. It also contains
the transcript of the trance in booklet form. The work is magical.
There is a second CD with Barbara’s health strategies, a meditation and
a trance and a third CD with an interview and discussion with Dr.
Bandler on health, NLP, DHE, Hypnosis, belief systems and more. There
are 3 cds and a booklet total. It is valuable for everyone and deals
with wellness on many levels.