NLP™
Submitted by webmaster on Sun, 2006-10-22 23:45.
I personally am so tremendously grateful to Dr. Richard Bandler for NLP™, DHE™ and his contribution to human communication and acknowledge that the information and logos are used with his express permission. We are delighted to be associated with him and the Society of NLP™!
NLP™ is the study of the structure of subjective experience and is based on the concept that all behavior has structure. The models describe how the human brain functions and are used to teach them, and how language operates on the brain. In simple language, it is about how your brain works. NLP™ is not a model of repair, but a model of acquisition. It is a model that can be applied and taught by experience. It is about having more choices, modeling excellence, and accelerated learning and is an extensive brain training. Dr. Richard Bandler began creating and developing the technology (and soon was joined by John Grinder), which was based on modeling experts in many varied fields the early 1970's. They are referred to as co-developers of NLP. In my opinion and others, Richard was and is the genius of NLP and the modeler. They held a seminar in Dr. Dave Dobson's living room before it was called NLP and to quote Dave,"Richard was the genius......no question about that."
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by Barbara Stepp, Master Trainer of NLP™ and DHE™
Submitted by webmaster on Fri, 2007-11-30 23:00.
Not your ship anchor…the other kind.
The definition of anchoring that we’re interested in here is “The process of associating an internal response with some external trigger (similar to classical conditioning) so that the response may be quickly, an sometimes covertly, reaccessed.”
So we can deliberately set an anchor for a great state that we want to access again easily.
The anchor can be set powerfully while you are experiencing a specific stimulus or in a really great state.
But what about non-deliberate anchors? They can be wonderful or not. Anchors can be set out of awareness…valuable and not so valuable ones.
Some of the inappropriate responses we have are caused by old anchors…unconscious anchors.
It might be valuable to keep that in mind before we judge someone’s seemingly off-the-wall response.
Remember, feelings don’t just come from nowhere. Accessing pictures, sounds, smells and tastes results in feelings or sensations whether they are very pleasant or not.
When we do recognize this, break state/interrupt the pattern. Do it often enough, the anchor can be gone, unless you want to keep it.
by by Barbara Stepp, Master Trainer of NLP™ and DHE™
Submitted by webmaster on Thu, 2007-11-01 06:00.
No, it is not a town in southern Italy because it is not a destination. It is a much discussed and used word. It has been abused in many a humorous way.
The NLP definition is, “matching aspects of another person’s external behavior”. Being the same creates rapport. The ongoing process of matching is referred to a pacing. Rapport is a choice.
Over the many years I have been in NLP, I have experienced various people who have read a book on NLP, attempting to match every element of my behavior, tone and language. It is humorous to change my behavior and watch them scramble to match. Why do we notice this consciously? Why doesn’t that work?
Matching behavior is powerful because it is unconscious. The unconscious mind of the other person recognizes a friendly. It should be done elegantly, gracefully and respectfully. If it is not, it can be interpreted as mimicking and some may find it insulting or at best humorous.
Matching is not about being agreeable or nice, although is it nice to be nice. Matching is simply the art of being the Same.
Some of the ways we can match are to adjust our bodies to be similar to the other person’s posture and pacing consistent us of body movements like eye blinks, smiles; tonality, volume; gestures; listening to an utilizing repeated phrases; cross-over matching, adjusting the tempo of voice to the person’s rate of breathing, and a very valuable one, matching their breathing.
Instead of trying to do them all at the same time, I suggest that you pick one or two and pace them comfortably.
This is what Dave Dobson does with the famous Other-than-conscious-hello. He picks a piece of behavior and acknowledges it respectfully. Since rapport is an ongoing phenomena, if one comes from a place of caring and wanting to get to know someone it works. You can do it from 30 feet away. It is a powerful tool when done with respect and courtesy. We teach the OTC hello and many other unconscious/other-than-conscious-skills in our Practitioner training. You get the opportunity to practice with your fellow participants in the class.
by Jeff Schoener, The NLP™ Wordsmythe
Submitted by webmaster on Fri, 2007-06-01 06:00.
A Self-Exploration of the Feminine Balance.
We all have hopes and dreams. What’s stopping you from attaining them? A seemingly simple question. Notice your response. Notice your answers. What can this Wordsmythe teach you about the life you lead? The answer is, pay attention to the language that you use. The little words such as ‘just’, and ‘but’. Notice the words that come just after. They frame your motivations and help to provide comfort within your rationalizations. Comfort within your discomfort™.
Sure you could apply the meta-model challenge, yet if the words came out when others are around, you have set up a life frame where people will act and react to you. This is part of our human condition. This is far more pronounced and in many ways more hurtful for women of today.
Ladies, do you remember times when you felt a bit down? You may have purchased something new. Perhaps a blouse or shoes or dress? You wore it and felt great for a short time. This is an example of feelings resonating from the outside in. These are the most fleeting. Cable television shows focus on extreme change such as surgery in order to adjust the outside in hopes of changing the inside. I think this works far more profoundly from the inside out. When you consistently radiate self-love and confidence from your very core, profound satisfaction will soon be found in many other areas of your lives. How then do you alleviate your feelings when you feel less than you deserve? Too many women experience aspects of distraction in order to let go of those nagging feelings that stay with you just outside of your conscious awareness. You could change them if you were more aware of how they will limit and stop you from being the woman you were born to be.
These are some of the reasons that my wife and I developed something new, “The Core of Self-Acceptance for Women©”. We believe, and I think you will also, that accessories, worn on the outside, bring far greater reflection to a light when it shines brightly from within. Our mothers and our grandmothers looked to their mothers for inspiration. They may have had little according to today’s standards, yet they stood regally in their cause of nurturing and building solid relationships. Quietly negotiating as she insured the safety and contentment of first her family and then her community. A seemingly simple woman, dedicated to giving, creating and striving. All the while standing proud in her humble nobility. Who do we look towards today? Where else can you go and learn these important ways of behavior and to model the feminine?
Did you know that what you are saying to yourself is often worse than what you are saying on the outside? We’ll teach you both consciously and unconsciously too easily and elegantly tap into the force of nature that you already are. Imagine no longer having to question or doubt, but to grow into the healthy happy role models society currently craves.
Until next time, enjoy the flows of life.
Jeff Schoener
NLP™ Wordsmythe, LLC
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I and 9 other NLP™ Master Trainers including Richard Bandler have been interviewed by Tom and Vik. (Tom is an NLP™ Trainer and Vik an NLP™ Master Practitioner).
Below is an example of some of the questions they asked us.
- What exactly did you do to get so good at NLP?
- How did you get your first clients?
- Where do you see the opportunities in NLP to make money?
- What do you believe about creating lasting change?
And many more questions.
by Stever Robbins, NLP Master Trainer
Submitted by webmaster on Mon, 2007-04-30 23:00.
NLP business applications often suck. Well, maybe they're not that bad, but all you hear about is rapport skills, predicate matching, and sometimes meta-programs. At best, they're applied to getting people to play nice together, helping customers who call for help feel better, and convincing people to feel good buying stuff they don't really need or want. NLP is a universal tool that can be used much more widely. It's a tool for understanding, and a tool for making changes. Using an NLP mindset can lead to powerful business results, just as it leads to powerful personal results. NLP Thinking Helps Fix Business Problems. NLP provides Practitioners techniques like Change History and Anchoring. As your skill increases, you start thinking in processes. You ask, "How does this person get their current results?" You elicit strategies and states, identify triggers, and choose interventions that change a person's process. Process thinking is like gold in business; few people do it well. Applying NLP thinking to business helps find the root cause of business problems. While a person is conveniently self-contained, a business is made of many people, so you'll be doing your strategy elicitation by working with people and the relationships between them. Imagine Miss Anne's Department Store is losing business. Elicit MADS's strategy for making money by asking, "What's MADS's strategy for getting a customer to buy?" Then trace the process step-by-step to find out where it fails. Your strategy elicitation will lead you through the entire organization: First, MADS must get customers. This leads you to marketing. You ask customers how they heard of MADS. Everyone says, "on MADS's 5 p.m. radio ad," even though MADS advertises in 5 different places. Next, customers visit the store, try on clothes, and buy or don't buy. You notice people who try on the clothes return most of what they try on when they return from the fluorescent-lit dressing room. Then, customers approach the cash register to pay. They walk up to an empty register, look around in puzzlement, and hunt through 3 departments to find the on-duty cashier. After a 10-minute wait, they reach the register. Finally, customers pay. You notice that several want to pay by credit card, and are dismayed by MADS "cash-only" policy. Without sufficient cash, some customers return clothes to the racks. We've just seen the business-equivalent of a strategy. Just as NLP strategies lead you to the intervention ("you're yelling at yourself? Let's turn the volume down!"), business strategies also suggest their own interventions. In this case, help the marketing department do a better job of attracting customers, replace the dressing room light bulbs with full-spectrum lighting, make sure cash registers are fully staffed, and accept credit cards. NLP Helps Understand the Link Between Individuals and the Business Once you've found the critical organizational process moments at the business level, you can search for the people at the heart of organizational issues. When people make decisions that set policy, those decisions get magnified into organizational behavior. For example, I worked with a COO candidate who made decisions too slowly for his CEO's comfort. He liked making fully-informed decisions. Really fully-informed. Jam-packed-fully-informed. He could spend months gathering and analyzing data. Thus, the organization itself would slow until he made up his mind. This executive's personal decision-making strategy determined the entire organization's speed! At this point, we could shift to "typical" NLP with the individual. Here, NLP came into play unpacking and revising his decision-making process. His decisions sped up, his organization's decisions sped up, and he was eventually promoted to COO. You'll find this is not uncommon. Individual NLP skills can, indeed, help people in an organization get better at what they do. But when you combine individual NLP skills with NLP process thinking at an organizational level, you can find the organizational leverage points where a single change in the business or in a person can create lasting, significant business value. SteverRobbins.com The Stever Robbins Company Helping People Exceed Their Own Expectations +1 (617) 354-1446
by Jeff Schoener, The NLP™ Wordsmythe
Submitted by webmaster on Sat, 2007-03-31 23:00.
Many of us who use language in our daily lives rely upon what we already know. Even if we completed NLP™ Practitioner or Master Practitioner classes, we grow comfortably into our own language patterns. As communicators and ones who influence, it is often helpful to go back to basics. We will read and reread books. We find ourselves buying audio courses, in order to realize greater value in our words.
Sure, many of you reading learn more about attaining greater awareness in language such as ambiguities and representational systems. Once many of us learn these basics, some of us seem to gain a level of arrogance, and when we are about to learn again, our brains begin to shut down. You may tell yourself, “I already know this.”, or more specifically, on the inside, “This again?” In these ways we close ourselves off from fresh perspectives on something “OLD”.
Too many of us think that we already know enough to match certain predicates and to get your points across. How many of you reading, I wonder, have a greater appreciation of the value you gain for yourselves? I challenge you to begin to find more creative ways in adding to the descriptors of your own experiences. As a by product of accepting this challenge, you will be enhancing your own ability to persuade and lead. You will learn to fire up your brain and access all of the areas accessed by your senses. Too many of us go through any experience by seeing it or feeling it. What if we could, not only, notice distinctions in what we hear, along with the distinctions within the qualities of what we hear?
More than simple representations; let us take greater control of our sub-modalities. This will add color and dimension to all that you say. This will not only make your neurology sing, this will also expand your own flexibility in areas of matching and holding report with anyone.
Until next time, enjoy the flows of life.
Jeff Schoener
NLP™ Wordsmythe, LLC
888-847-3696
Sign up for The Wordsmythe Quarterly www.nlpwordsmythe.com
Ladies are invited to visit www.rightmrright.com
by Barbara Stepp, NLP™ & DHE™ Master Trainer
Submitted by webmaster on Sat, 2007-03-31 23:00.
Most of us spend half our waking time at work. Our employ consumes a lot of brain power that doesn’t use our brain’s associative potential.
Using brain aerobics will give us brain breaks that stretch our minds throughout the day.
Take a brain break. Take a walk at lunch, start a discussion group. There are many seemingly small ideas to increase our brain activity. Trying them doesn’t cost us anything but a little time from the ordinary and may improve our memory and brain function.
For example, move your wastebasket in your office to a different location. The moment you catch yourself aiming at the old familiar location, notice it, redirect your actions, your brain’s increased alertness to a new situation and the beginnings of an new series of instructions entered into your mental program.
So, it’s good to incorporate a little disorder into your life.
You can also activate your memory by putting an odor and a specific task together. Remember a particular phone number and use a specific smell every time you dial it.
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